Wednesday, 6 March 2019

A safe place for guys to talk about their mental health.

I had a day session booked at my local tattoo shop, I had over two months to prepare myself for this.
The evening before my anxiety kicked in real bad and I was trying to find a way out of it, I wanted out and wasn't bothered about losing the money I had paid out.

On the day I was still trying to get out of it , this time I was blaming my clothing... didn't want to wear this and didn't wanna wear that because I felt fat and ugly. I started to panic, felt over emotional and couldn't calm myself down.

See I don't like walking in to shops, pubs or anywhere public where there are people, I feel like every one is judging me, staring and talking about me. ( I know this isn't the case, just my old brain kicking up a fuss).

After some persuasion from my partner I called a cab and headed out.

I can't thank my tattooist enough, she made me feel so welcome and relaxed. We got talking about mental health and also my experiences which affected my own mental health.

" I was being listened to and not being judged for once ".

It got me thinking about our community and if and how many places actually had staff that had some form of training when it comes to listening / talking about mental health.

I know we have the CMHT and doctors bla bla bla but I have always found these so formal, and again I always feel like I'm being judged.

I know there are a few Barber shops now that are doing there bit to help their customers that may be going through a tough time or have mental health problems. I believe that some shops also have a "quiet chair" for guys that don't want to chat, simply have your hair cut in silence.

We need more youth clubs throughout the country so the younger lads have some place they can escape and if needed can talk in confidence or openly with others.

I think as a country we need to do more to make talking about mental health easier for guys of all ages. I strongly believe that we would have less suicides and self harm rates.

1 comment:

  1. Yea you're right , it's OK for guys to not be OK and we need to accept that as a society.